A Tool to Support you in Becoming a Master Manifestor and Creating the Life You Want!
Mastery is built on practice, repetition, and development of skill.
To develop mastery, we usually have to move through three stages:
- learning/thinking … to …
- practicing/doing … to …
If you want to develop Manifestation Mastery, you can deliberately practice techniques that will train you to focus your attention skillfully. That is the point of these Blissipline Mastery Practices.
The Three Point Turn
This week our focus is on the Three Point Turn.
I have practiced the Three Point Turn with countless clients, and I notice it can take a little while to get the hang of it, so I encourage you to practice it a lot. If you do it multiple times a day you will get better and better at it, and eventually it will become a habit you don’t even have to think about, and your focus will just naturally turn to what you want without any effort.
As Cheri Huber reminds us,
“Everything we want is “built” through attention. Everything we DON’T want is also built through attention, which is why we want to keep attention on what we want. Kindness, acceptance, presence, patience, humor, lightness, warmth, love—this is what we want and so this is where we’re going to practice keeping attention.”
Three Great Resources!
Here are three powerful resources to really help you get started.
It’s totally up to you to practice if you want to develop this skill, but I’m doing my best to set you up for success by providing you with everything you could need!
- First, you might want to read the basic instructions for the Three Point Turn. I have tried to keep it simple to get started. As you practice this you will notice your understanding and appreciation of the process deepen, but at first you can just follow the steps.
- Secondly, I have also created a video explanation, in case that’s an easier introduction for you to take in. The two in combination will help you begin to deepen your understanding of the value of the practice.
- Three, to really develop this skill, come join us on Facebok in the Blissipline group. There you can ask all the questions you like, and if you want we will practice three point turns together.
You truly can train yourself into the mindset that will bring you all you want! So give this a try and see how it can support you!
The Three Point Turn is a way of directing your focus toward what you want whenever you notice you are focusing on something negative. This can be very gentle and respectful. The point is to start where you are, acknowledge it gently, and then ease in the direction of what you would prefer.
It’s very important to do this gradually, because otherwise it will trigger an internal reaction and generate resistance, so the Three Point Turn is carefully designed to maximize your chance of actually improving your mood and increasing your alignment with what you want.
Important note: You will know if this is working by what you feel. If you feel ease or relief you are moving in the right direction. Your feelings are your best indicator of how this is going.
• Step 1 •
You can use the three point turn whenever you notice you are thinking thoughts, or expressing beliefs, or having feelings that you don’t like, that are uncomfortable, or that you feel are not serving you.
Stop and notice what’s going on inside you. Take a breath or two to mentally note what kinds of feelings are present and what kinds of thoughts you’re having. Give this a little time and be very kind to yourself and respectful of what you are feeling and thinking.
Describe it to yourself out loud. You can use this kind of language:
“I notice that I’m feeling/thinking/believing…”
It’s very important that you don’t go into too much detail. One or at most two sentences is enough. This is just to acknowledge the starting point of where you are right now. It’s not complaining or describing, but more like a simple taking inventory. Aha! That’s how it is for me right now.
Then you can complete step one by saying, “Ok, Got it!” Take a breath. And you are ready for step 2.
Notice that while it took a minute or so to describe step 1, it only take a few seconds to do it. This is just a simple acknowledgement of what is already here.
• Step 2 •
Once you are aware of your current uncomfortable thought, you can invite yourself to notice what you wouldprefer to think, or feel, or believe.
You can use this kind of language…
“What I would prefer to feel/think/believe is…”
The is the step that turns you in the direction of what you want.
Don’t try to jump too far. If you are miserable, don’t try for joy — just for the easiest next thought that brings a feeling of relief.
Sometimes it might just be the exact opposite of what you are thinking: I notice that I’m anxious. I would prefer to feel calm. Or it might be a little more nuanced.
As you do this, stop and take a breath and notice how this feels. Remember: You will know if it’s working by how it feels. If you feel relief you are on the right track.
Again, give this a little time, and, feel your way forward. If you listen to yourself, you can always discover what you would prefer, even if it’s only that you would prefer not to think or feel that thing you’re thinking. That’s a pretty good starting point. Then as you pay attention to how you are feeling, you will be able to let more awareness of your preference arise in you.
• Step 3 •
Now that you have turned in the direction of what you want, you can increase the momentum of your positive thoughts and feelings. Again, go slowly. If you go too far too fast, you will probably trigger resistance, and you will know this because it stops feeling good.
In Step 3, you can add some “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” statements about what you would prefer.
You can just say one simple thing, or you can let yourself riff on this if it feels good to you. Add whatever comes into your mind as a pleasant idea. This might lead into an extended imagination of things that would be pleasant or it might just be a short description of how nice it would be if this situation goes well.
Again, guide yourself by how you feel. As you do this, do you feel relief? If you feel even the teensiest little feeling of relief, you are moving in the direction of soothing and ease and the capacity to choose what you want.
As you continue, your feelings might improve even more, so that you start to feel hopeful or eager or even confidant. But ONLY do this as long as it feels good. This step is usually 3 or 4 sentences, but it could lead into a whole extended fantasy.
• Follow Up •
If you are feeling better, you can just get on with your day, or if you want, you can continue to do this a few more times on whatever challenging thought pops up.
Once you are feeling pretty good, that’s a great time to stop, and distract yourself, and deliberately go do something fun!
Here are two examples of how you might do the Three-Point Turn …
1. I notice I’m feeling really cranky and overwhelmed. Yes, I feel cranky and overwhelmed right now. Ok, got it. (Check how that feels. If it feels accurate that’s good enough. And sometimes just naming your feeling creates a sense of relief.)
2. What I would prefer is to feel happier. I would prefer to feel good. I would prefer to feel like I can handle these things, no problem. (Check if that feels like a bit of relief.)
3. Wouldn’t it be nice if I could just feel better and actually have a good day here. It would be great to turn it around and start to feel like things are going my way. It would be really nice to have things working. For example, it would be so nice to have this project I’m working on work out really well. I would love to feel like this is easy. Yes, that would be nice. I would love for it to be easy. That would be so cool. (Check how this feels.)
1. I notice that I’m thinking that I don’t have enough money to take a vacation this year, and I feel frustrated. (Check how that feels.)
2. I would prefer to believe I will find a way to go on vacation, and that the means are going to come to me somehow. I would prefer to believe that’s possible, even though I don’t know how it’s going to happen right now. (Check if that feels like a bit of relief.)
3. Wouldn’t it be nice to go to Greece. OMG I can see that blue water now. And I love the idea of sitting at some cafe, overlooking the beautiful sea, eating a Greek salad! Do they even eat Greek salad in Greece? I guess I’ll find out. I would love to go parasailing too, so I can look down into the water and… (You get the idea.)
Here’s a video I made to add to this info… It contains the instructions plus a little more explanation about why and how it works.The Three Point Turn Explained…
Join us if you want extra support!
I hope you will let yourself enjoy this practice!
You can get extra support by joining us in the Blissipline group. You can post your questions or practice sessions. You can come to a live call, practice on your own, set an alarm and do it several times a day, whatever you want!
Joy is available to you!
Let’s rock this!